The sanskrit word for the male sexual organ is lingham. Its loosely translated as the "wand of light". its meaning is different in intention from the typical western view of the penis. In tantra/sacred sexuality, the lingham is respectfully viewed and honoured, a "wand of light" that channels creative energy and pleasure.
The purpose of the lingham massage is to create a space for the receiver to relax, and receive expanded pleasure from his lingham. His partner experiences the joy of facilitating and witnessing the man surrendering to his softer, gentler side. The lingham massage can be used as a form of safer sex also, and is an excellent process to build trust and intimacy. It is often used to help men heal from negative sexual conditioning and trauma.
Orgasm is NOT the goal of the lingham massage, although it can be a welcome and pleasant side effect. The goal is to massage the lingham, also including the testicles, perineum, and the sacred spot( the equivalent of the female G-spot), and allow the man to surrender to a form of pleasure he may not be used to. From this perspective, both receiver and giver relax into the massage.
Men need to learn how to RELAX AND RECEIVE. Traditional sexual conditioning has the man in a doing and goal orientated mode. The lingham massage allows the man to experience his softer, more receptive side and experience pleasure from a non-traditional perspective.
Take a relaxing bath or shower if possible beforehand. Take your time and breathe deeply. Conscious , relaxed breathing will take you out of your mental process and will get you more into your feelings. Relax your belly and let go of the tension that most of us hold there.
Go to the bathroom before begining the massage. The best results occur when the bowels and bladder are empty.
Let go of your thoughts and connect with the person doing the massage, make the session a place of relaxation and trust.
Have the receiver lie on his back with pillows under his head so he can look up at the masseur. Spread his legs apart with the knees slightly bent, and the genitals clearly exposed for the massage.
Before contacting the body, begin with deep, relaxed breathing. Gently massage the legs, the abdoman, thighs, chest, nipples, etc,. to get the receiver to relax. Remind the receiver to breathe deeply and to sink deeper into relaxation.
Pour a small quantity of the massage creme on the shaft of the lingham, or in the hands of the masseur and warm it to body temperature. Begin gently massaging the testicles, taking care not to cause pain on this sensitive area. Massage the scrotum gently, causing it to relax. Massage the area above the lingham, on the pubic bone. Massage the perineum, the area between the testicles and anus. Take your time. You are giving a massage to an often neglected area of the body.
Massage the shaft of the lingham as if you are using and orange juicer. Massage all around the head and shaft., In Tantra there are many nerve endings in the lingham that correspond to other parts of the body. It is said many ailments can be cured by receiving a good lingham massage.
NOTE: The lingham may or may not go soft as you perform this technique. Do not worry if it doesn't get hard again. You will find that is will get hard, then go soft, get hard again, etc. This is actually a desirable tantric experience, like riding a wave, bobbing up and down. Hardness and softness are two ends of the pleasure spectrum.
If it appears that the receiver is about to ejaculate, back off, allowing the lingham to soften a little before resuming the massage. Do this several times, coming close to ejaculation, and then backing off. Remember, the goal is not orgasm . Men can learn the art of ejaculatory mastery and control be coming close to ejaculation and then backing off on the stimulation. Deep breathing is key here and will soften the urge to ejaculate. Eventually, ejaculatory mastery will allow you to make love as long as you want and you can become multi-orgasmic without losing a drop of semen. Orgasm and ejaculationare two different responses that you can learn to separate. The result is an expanded sex life.
Find and massage the male Sacred Spot. There are two ways to do this.
One is by finding the spot midway between the testicles and the anus. There is a small indentation about the size of a pea of maybe larger. Be gentle and push inward. He will feel the pressure deep inside and it may be intensely painful at first. Eventually , as this area is worked on and softened, he will be able to expand his orgasms and master ejaculatory control. You can massage his lingham with your right hand and massage his sacred spot with your left hand. Try pushing in on this spot when he nears ejaculation. Its aptly named the Million dollar point in Taoism.
The other way to access the Sacred Spot is thru the anus. Many men, especially heterosexual men, are uncomfortable at first as a result of negative sexual conditioning. be careful here and use plenty of lubrication. The key is to go slow and be very gentle. Make sure he is breathing as you slip a finger from your right hand into the anus about an inch or so. Then crook the finger back in a "come here" gesture. You will feel the prostate gland. Vary the pressure and speed of the massage. He may want stimulation of the lingham as you massage the Sacred Spot. back off the lingham as he approaches orgasm and increase the pressure on the sacred spot.
Sometimes the man may have strong emotions come up during access to the sacred spot. he may cry and remember a traumatic event from the past. You, the giver, are in a place of trust and intimacy. Allow him to feel his emotions and be very loving, not trying to console or fix him, just let him feel whatever he needs to. Encourage him to scream, cry, moan, sob, if it feels appropriate. Be the best friend and healer he could have at that moment.
Ending the massage:
If he chooses to let go and ejaculate, encourage him to breathe deeply during the orgasm. It will blow his mind, expecially if he has come close and held back at least six times before ejaculating. Holding back six times charges up the sexual battery with tremendous energy. It is then his choice as to where he wants to send this energy -- out with their ejaculate, or inward for other uses( men who master ejaculation are able to channel this energy into other areas of their being)
When he feels complete with the massage, gently remove your hands and allow him to lie there quietly. You may want to bring him a warm towel to clean off a bit or just let him drift off into a meditative state. Allow him to fully experience his childlike innocence and magnificent male beauty.
Have fun with this technique and share it with your friends and loved ones.
And the cost for this incredible adventure? Its only $80, and
you will need at least an hour, maybe longer to fully appreciate this technique.
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